I was recently on a three week research sabbatical and, man, was I ever surprised at how it went. More on this later. In my time and space that I’ve never had the privilege of experiencing before, I was able to make some observations. One of the loudest observations I made is how many social games people play. There”s the typical ‘keeping up with the Jones” stuff and then there’s the ‘I’m going to take people down who have more than I have’ stuff.
I’ve been praying for clarity about where that comes from, and I think God revealed the answer to me through I book I’m reading.
In his book, Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, Greg McKeown states:
“When we are unclear about our real purpose in life—in other words, when we don’t have a clear sense of our goals, our aspirations, and our values—we make up our own social games. We waste time and energies on trying to look good in comparison to other people. We overvalue nonessentials like a nicer car or house, or even intangibles like the number of our followers on Twitter or the way we look in our Facebook photos. As a result, we neglect activities that are truly essential, like spending time with our loved ones, or nurturing our spirit, or taking care of our health.”
That’s it! When we play these games it is because of a lack of or unclear purpose in our life. So, if you find yourself playing these games, there’s hope. Here’s what to do:
1. Stop it!
2. Get quiet.
3. Ask yourself and God, “Why am I really here?” “How and where can I add the most value?” “What was I uniquely created to do?”
4. Commit to revisit these questions and answers a minimum of once daily so you stay focused on why you are here.
What are some examples in your life of times you were unclear and the got clear on your purpose? How did it change your desires and behaviors?