Relationships: When The Going Gets Tough

How to stick with the ones you love when you're hurting

Have you had seasons when your relationships have felt stagnant?  I know I have.  I’ve even had times where I’ve been downright frustrated or offended in relationships and I’ve been ready to quit.  Sometimes it’s my marriage, other times it’s friendships; it has even been with family members.

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Let’s Quit All These Stupid Social Games

I was recently on a three week research sabbatical and, man, was I ever surprised at how it went.  More on this later.  In my time and space that I’ve never had the privilege of experiencing before, I was able to make some observations.  One of the loudest observations I made is how many social games people play.  There”s the typical ‘keeping up with the Jones” stuff and then there’s the ‘I’m going to take people down who have more than I have’ stuff.

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Feeling Discouraged?

If you are, “you are disagreeing with God.  Questioning his judgement.  Second-guessing his taste.  According to him you were ‘skillfully wrought’ (Ps. 139:15). You were ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’ (Ps. 139:14).  He can’t stop thinking about you!  If you could count his thoughts of you, ‘they would be more in number than the sand’ (Ps. 139:18). Why does he love you so much?  The same reason the artist loves his paintings or the boat builder loves his vessels.  You are his idea.  And God has only good ideas. ‘For we are God’s masterpiece.  He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago’ (Eph. 2:10 NLT).” – From Max Lucado’s Fearless (Affiliate Link)

Are You Jumping to Conclusions?

Warning: I’m going to disclose some information in this post that will be very misleading unless you read the entire article.  Enjoy.

It’s no secret that I’m a Christian.  I regularly participate in activities that help me grow in my faith.  This includes daily prayer and Bible reading, journaling, attending church, meeting with guy friends for accountability, plus more.

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You Have to Look for It

We ask and answer about 350 questions every day. What will I wear? Should I address that? Or sometimes chilling questions like, “What color casket do you think he would have wanted?”

I ask God a question every day: “God, where are you working today and how can I help?” Here’s the challenge: we often ask a question and then don’t stick around long enough for the answer.

What’s more is we’re not the best listeners either. I always chuckle when I say something like, “Good morning!” And I hear, “I’m good. You?”

The reality is, when you ask something, stick around for the answer. If it doesn’t come, listen better. Sometimes it’s right in front of you, you’ve just forgotten what you were looking for.